Cheering people up is overrated.

WELL. If that isn't a super extra bah humbug statement, I don't know what it is.

But the language witchery is intentional, as is the timing.

Because in this most wonderful time of year (for some), there are many who suffer in silence.

And because people are often giving gifts in this wonderful time – often gifts that they hope will cheer people up.

Which is not a bad thing. I'm here for making people smile and laugh and feel jolly.

AND—importantly, and—sometimes the attempt to make people feel better invalidates their pain, or makes them feel invisible.

I know from experience; I wrote an entire book about it.

For the readers of Still Moving, the purpose is not to make you feel better. It's not a gift that aims to create positivity.

Still Moving is a gift, though, that creates validation. Because that matters more than positivity.

If you're not sure what I mean, you can watch a clip from the release party, of me explaining this exact point. It's unscripted, off-the-cuff remarks that emerged from our discussion.

If you enjoy, that's great. More importantly, I hope you recognize the validation.

In recognition,
S.


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